Mood : Just wondering
Girlfriend I'm just asking ...is it me? or does everyone JUST think of THEMSELVES.
So I was talking to a friend of mine.... he is young and accomplished... he is married to a young lady who also has a career and they have a child together.
But my friend cheats on his girl and says that " he doubts he will be with her for the long run".
So I asked him.. why do you stay? and he said for my Kid.....
In my eyes i think that's a scapegoat.... raising your child in a dysfunctional home JUST to say they were raised by two parents.
So I said the both of y'all are young and you ONLY live once -- why not get a divorce, go your separate ways and find love with who you truly should be with.
HE NEVER EVEN CONSIDERED IT......
In his mind... he was going to keep the Fairytale wife and kid so that it looks GOOD in everyone else eyes and behind closed doors he is unhappy and seeking happiness else where.
So my question is in this Situation why is he being soooooo selfish?
Why wont he let her go instead of subjecting her to being mistreated by him?
So my question is WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO HAVE THEIR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO? and WHAT MAKES PEOPLE CHEAT.... wouldn't it just be better to Leave...
Let me know how you feel.
Don't forget you can email me blog ideas @ JUSTASKINGBONNY@GMAIL.COM
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
GirlFriend... Im Just asking What kinda woman are Black men attracted to?
Mood: State of Confusion
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Has the game changed? What are Bruthas really looking for? and do we really have what they are looking for?
So, I was talking with multiple male friends of mine and they all had very similar stories... and it was really shocking to hear what they were saying...
All of them were in relationships with black women for multiple years.
All of them claim they took care of their women mentally , emotionally and financially saying their girl didn't want for anything one even said his girl had a monthly allowance of 12-hundred a month.
But here is where stuff goes down hill... Each of them said... their girl NEVER cleaned.. NEVER cooked.. Complained a lot... and some didn't even work...
THIS LEFT ME IN A STATE OF CONFUSION.....
So i asked... why did you stay?
All of them responded the same way ... They loved her... they were comfortable..they invested so much they didn't want to let go.
NOW.... as a result of these horrible relationships All these guys either have commitment issues or have turned their back on black women as a whole...
SO I ASKED....
Why don't you want to date black girls anymore?
and this was the response...
They like to argue...
They are ungrateful...
They don't know how to let a man be a man...
MY NEXT QUESTION WAS SO WHAT DO YOU GET WHEN DATING WOMEN OF OTHER RACES THAT YOU DON'T GET FROM BLACK WOMEN?
I heard... this " When i am in a relationship with a Hispanic or Caucasian woman... its less confrontational. The house is clean, my dinner cooked and I see more smiles then frowns"
REALLY?
So my questions to my Sistah is...
WHAT DA HELL IS GOING ON?
Are some of us really out here keeping a dirty houses?
Not taking care of our men?
Using and abusing?
Are we quick to Argue but less likely to talk about things like a rational adult?
ON ANOTHER NOTE -- BUT NOT OFF TOPIC...
Black girls we need to step up when it comes to our bodies.
we are QUICK TO PICK UP A 200 DOLLAR OUTFIT, PUT RIMS ON OUR CARS, BUY WEAVES COSTING HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS but we WONT invest in our bodies.
when I'm at the gym @ 7 am its full of women... but only a few are black women...
we lead in Heart Disease, High Blood Pressure & Diabetes...
YES IT TRUE Not everyone is meant to be a size zero BUT everyone should be a size HEALTHY!
So in conclusion... Sistahs we are ALWAYS complaining about there is NO GOOD BLACK MEN OUT THERE.... but are we doing what it take to Get a GOOD MAN and Keep Him?
Lemme Know what you think?
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Has the game changed? What are Bruthas really looking for? and do we really have what they are looking for?
So, I was talking with multiple male friends of mine and they all had very similar stories... and it was really shocking to hear what they were saying...
All of them were in relationships with black women for multiple years.
All of them claim they took care of their women mentally , emotionally and financially saying their girl didn't want for anything one even said his girl had a monthly allowance of 12-hundred a month.
But here is where stuff goes down hill... Each of them said... their girl NEVER cleaned.. NEVER cooked.. Complained a lot... and some didn't even work...
THIS LEFT ME IN A STATE OF CONFUSION.....
So i asked... why did you stay?
All of them responded the same way ... They loved her... they were comfortable..they invested so much they didn't want to let go.
NOW.... as a result of these horrible relationships All these guys either have commitment issues or have turned their back on black women as a whole...
SO I ASKED....
Why don't you want to date black girls anymore?
and this was the response...
They like to argue...
They are ungrateful...
They don't know how to let a man be a man...
MY NEXT QUESTION WAS SO WHAT DO YOU GET WHEN DATING WOMEN OF OTHER RACES THAT YOU DON'T GET FROM BLACK WOMEN?
I heard... this " When i am in a relationship with a Hispanic or Caucasian woman... its less confrontational. The house is clean, my dinner cooked and I see more smiles then frowns"
REALLY?
So my questions to my Sistah is...
WHAT DA HELL IS GOING ON?
Are some of us really out here keeping a dirty houses?
Not taking care of our men?
Using and abusing?
Are we quick to Argue but less likely to talk about things like a rational adult?
ON ANOTHER NOTE -- BUT NOT OFF TOPIC...
Black girls we need to step up when it comes to our bodies.
we are QUICK TO PICK UP A 200 DOLLAR OUTFIT, PUT RIMS ON OUR CARS, BUY WEAVES COSTING HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS but we WONT invest in our bodies.
when I'm at the gym @ 7 am its full of women... but only a few are black women...
we lead in Heart Disease, High Blood Pressure & Diabetes...
YES IT TRUE Not everyone is meant to be a size zero BUT everyone should be a size HEALTHY!
So in conclusion... Sistahs we are ALWAYS complaining about there is NO GOOD BLACK MEN OUT THERE.... but are we doing what it take to Get a GOOD MAN and Keep Him?
Lemme Know what you think?
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking ... Do you know what works for you?
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Do you have a realistic view of your physical appearance.
I see a lot of "Hot Messes" walking around and i think a lot of it is due to lack of what i like to call "BODY AWARENESS".
I see women walking in da mall or in the club and i say to myself "What was she thinking?"
Ladies we Must keep it Real with ourselves -- First and Foremost..... Everything that is in style does not mean its meant for our body type.
For example... I love high waisted jeans but it doesn't look good on me... I'm not very Hippy and my butt isn't that big.
This style looks better on a "Pear Shaped" woman.
Secondly ladies learn you to Accentuate the Positives and Camouflage the Negatives.
For examples... my positives are my boobs and legs.
so when out I try to wear things that show them off... a little cleavage and some shorts does the trick.
I'm AWARE that i don't have washboard abs so i DON'T wear mid-drift tops of spandex tops
I'm Also aware that my arms aren't that toned so i stay away from spaghetti straps or things that show my Lil jiggle.
Thirdly ladies Embrace your complexion....
When purchasing make-up.... make sure you purchase the right color foundation or powder.
Certain make-up trends might not fit your face or complexion.
For me i love to see beautiful make-up! its so girly! but i also know for my complexion i should stay with more earth tones like, brown, gold, cream, black, gray and light pinks and rose color shadows.
When using make-up REMEMBER it is meant to ENHANCE your beauty NOT give you a whole new face... So keep it natural.
Things you should try and avoid.
A.) Try not to draw on your eyebrows (nothings wrong with shading them in) BUT don't shave them off just to draw them back on.
B.) Eye shadows are great and can make your eyes pop... BUT KEEP IN MIND there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between daytime and night time make up. At 2pm in the afternoon your eyelids shouldn't be look like disco balls. So keep it simple.
C.) Lipstick/ Lip gloss.... if you aren't sure about how you will look in a shape put someone your hand... whatever you see if what others will see when its on your face... so if their is a LOUD and WRONG contrast more then likely it isn't for you.
** if all else fails... throw on some black liner, mascara, and a sheer lip gloss... just enough to get you noticed without trying TOO HARD!
Last But Not Least
A lot of women where weaves.....
Like anything else in life you get what you pay for.
buy some synthetic or cheap weave your hair will look a mess PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Invest in some GOOD hair that you can wash and take care of as if it was yours and your Hair will turn heads in a GOOD WAY...
So in conclusion Girlfriend when it comes to your outer appearance KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURSELF and remember just cause it came in your size doesn't mean it was meant for you.
I see a lot of "Hot Messes" walking around and i think a lot of it is due to lack of what i like to call "BODY AWARENESS".
I see women walking in da mall or in the club and i say to myself "What was she thinking?"
Ladies we Must keep it Real with ourselves -- First and Foremost..... Everything that is in style does not mean its meant for our body type.
For example... I love high waisted jeans but it doesn't look good on me... I'm not very Hippy and my butt isn't that big.
This style looks better on a "Pear Shaped" woman.
Secondly ladies learn you to Accentuate the Positives and Camouflage the Negatives.
For examples... my positives are my boobs and legs.
so when out I try to wear things that show them off... a little cleavage and some shorts does the trick.
I'm AWARE that i don't have washboard abs so i DON'T wear mid-drift tops of spandex tops
I'm Also aware that my arms aren't that toned so i stay away from spaghetti straps or things that show my Lil jiggle.
Thirdly ladies Embrace your complexion....
When purchasing make-up.... make sure you purchase the right color foundation or powder.
Certain make-up trends might not fit your face or complexion.
For me i love to see beautiful make-up! its so girly! but i also know for my complexion i should stay with more earth tones like, brown, gold, cream, black, gray and light pinks and rose color shadows.
When using make-up REMEMBER it is meant to ENHANCE your beauty NOT give you a whole new face... So keep it natural.
Things you should try and avoid.
A.) Try not to draw on your eyebrows (nothings wrong with shading them in) BUT don't shave them off just to draw them back on.
B.) Eye shadows are great and can make your eyes pop... BUT KEEP IN MIND there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between daytime and night time make up. At 2pm in the afternoon your eyelids shouldn't be look like disco balls. So keep it simple.
C.) Lipstick/ Lip gloss.... if you aren't sure about how you will look in a shape put someone your hand... whatever you see if what others will see when its on your face... so if their is a LOUD and WRONG contrast more then likely it isn't for you.
** if all else fails... throw on some black liner, mascara, and a sheer lip gloss... just enough to get you noticed without trying TOO HARD!
Last But Not Least
A lot of women where weaves.....
Like anything else in life you get what you pay for.
buy some synthetic or cheap weave your hair will look a mess PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Invest in some GOOD hair that you can wash and take care of as if it was yours and your Hair will turn heads in a GOOD WAY...
So in conclusion Girlfriend when it comes to your outer appearance KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURSELF and remember just cause it came in your size doesn't mean it was meant for you.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
GirlFriend Im Just Asking....What do you do when Mid-20's Put you in a Limbo?
Girlfriend how many of you have been through or is going through The Mid-20 CONFUSION.
Something Happens when you Reach around 25 years old.
it's Like a quarter life Crisis.
Your Still Considered Young but your Far from a Teenager.
You still want to Club and Party like a 19 year old Rock Star but your Conscious is telling you its time to BUCKLE DOWN... time to start making better decision and securing the rest of your life.
Then around 25 at this point at least 1 or 2 of your Girlfriends have children and you can not help but to wonder" AM I SUPPOSE TO BE HAVING BABIES TOO?"
Then there is your love life.... when your growing up as a little girl... you think by the time your 25 you'll be married to Prince Charming , living in a big house with a white picket fence and twin babies. BUT SURE AS SHIT STINKS...reality sets in and you have to take into consideration how many FROGS you have to kiss before you meet your Mr. Right.
And a lot of the times you still haven't Found him by the time you reach your Mid-20's.
Your career also comes into play.... while growing up you think... go to college... get a degree... equals a GREAT PAYING JOB.... *POW* sorry wrong answer... No one tells you about the entry level positions... the Horrible co-workers , the overbearing boss and the Sorry paycheck at the end of the week.
The fact is that before you can obtain your dream job in MOST circumstances you have to Pay your dues.
So Girlfriend I'm Just asking...
What do you do... when you see your Youth Slipping away but your NOT quiet where you want to be in life?
I think Everyone must go through this at least once in their lives....
In my point of view ... i think you must weigh your pro's and cons...
WHATS POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE
Then look at your Cons
WHAT CAN I FIX ABOUT MYSELF AND MY SITUATION
and last
DON'T SWEAT THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF YOUR HANDS.
Something Happens when you Reach around 25 years old.
it's Like a quarter life Crisis.
Your Still Considered Young but your Far from a Teenager.
You still want to Club and Party like a 19 year old Rock Star but your Conscious is telling you its time to BUCKLE DOWN... time to start making better decision and securing the rest of your life.
Then around 25 at this point at least 1 or 2 of your Girlfriends have children and you can not help but to wonder" AM I SUPPOSE TO BE HAVING BABIES TOO?"
Then there is your love life.... when your growing up as a little girl... you think by the time your 25 you'll be married to Prince Charming , living in a big house with a white picket fence and twin babies. BUT SURE AS SHIT STINKS...reality sets in and you have to take into consideration how many FROGS you have to kiss before you meet your Mr. Right.
And a lot of the times you still haven't Found him by the time you reach your Mid-20's.
Your career also comes into play.... while growing up you think... go to college... get a degree... equals a GREAT PAYING JOB.... *POW* sorry wrong answer... No one tells you about the entry level positions... the Horrible co-workers , the overbearing boss and the Sorry paycheck at the end of the week.
The fact is that before you can obtain your dream job in MOST circumstances you have to Pay your dues.
So Girlfriend I'm Just asking...
What do you do... when you see your Youth Slipping away but your NOT quiet where you want to be in life?
I think Everyone must go through this at least once in their lives....
In my point of view ... i think you must weigh your pro's and cons...
WHATS POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE
Then look at your Cons
WHAT CAN I FIX ABOUT MYSELF AND MY SITUATION
and last
DON'T SWEAT THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF YOUR HANDS.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking.. When you looking for a man.... does that include his babymama too?
Girlfriend I'm Just asking.... Does Baby mama Drama come with the territory of dating?
It seems like Now-a-days EVERYBODY got a kid.
with that said when your single and ready to mingle you find yourself bumping into more men with kids and fewer without --- What do you do?
Is this something that women need to get use to or should we Tie up our shoe laces and go on a MASSIVE MANHUNT for the small percentage of men over 25 years old without children.
In my opinion " the kids" aren't the problem.... Its everything that comes along with it.
First and foremost if your dating a man with a child ---get it through your head from jump honey... The number one spot in his life is already taken... you may be a STRONG second but...still not #1,
Secondly, if your a single woman without kids over the age of 24 ... More then likely your without children by choice so you have to look into yourself and see if being in a relationship with a pre-made family is what your looking for.
Last but FAR FROM LEAST.... the potential drama... Relationships are HARD enough as it is.... Do you really need to add a baby mama to the equation?
Not saying every baby mom is Crazy, Deranged and a stalker BUT we all know and have heard our share of HORROR stories.
So do you chance having to deal with some woman..shooting you the evil eye because your with the father of her child. Or using the child to do disrespectful things such as Dropping by your mans house unexpectedly or calling his phone real late.
And more then likely if she is confronted about it she'll say something like " The baby wanted to talk to him... The baby needed something".
Hmmmm.... I personally DON'T need no extra strain on my relationships...cause i can bring my own drama LMAO :)
So I'm just asking girlfriend... Is baby mama drama and kids apart of dating men in 2010?
It seems like Now-a-days EVERYBODY got a kid.
with that said when your single and ready to mingle you find yourself bumping into more men with kids and fewer without --- What do you do?
Is this something that women need to get use to or should we Tie up our shoe laces and go on a MASSIVE MANHUNT for the small percentage of men over 25 years old without children.
In my opinion " the kids" aren't the problem.... Its everything that comes along with it.
First and foremost if your dating a man with a child ---get it through your head from jump honey... The number one spot in his life is already taken... you may be a STRONG second but...still not #1,
Secondly, if your a single woman without kids over the age of 24 ... More then likely your without children by choice so you have to look into yourself and see if being in a relationship with a pre-made family is what your looking for.
Last but FAR FROM LEAST.... the potential drama... Relationships are HARD enough as it is.... Do you really need to add a baby mama to the equation?
Not saying every baby mom is Crazy, Deranged and a stalker BUT we all know and have heard our share of HORROR stories.
So do you chance having to deal with some woman..shooting you the evil eye because your with the father of her child. Or using the child to do disrespectful things such as Dropping by your mans house unexpectedly or calling his phone real late.
And more then likely if she is confronted about it she'll say something like " The baby wanted to talk to him... The baby needed something".
Hmmmm.... I personally DON'T need no extra strain on my relationships...cause i can bring my own drama LMAO :)
So I'm just asking girlfriend... Is baby mama drama and kids apart of dating men in 2010?
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking...Do you know if he is into you?
GirlFriend I'm just Asking.... Do you know the signs that he is just not that into you??
So many beautiful and intelligent women don't know the signs....
First thing that you got to understand is... Just because you are an attractive woman doesn't mean you are every mans CUP OF TEA.
Trust me for the most part everyone has a type , physically and mentally so just cause you a Lil HOTTIE doesn't quiet secure you a spot with every man you set your eyes on.
Now that you understand that.... Here are some KEY things to take note of when dealing with a guy.
A.) How quickly does he respond to your Text , Email, Phone call, Instant message or BBM...
If a dude is into you he will always make time for you.... plain and simple if your a PRIORITY... he will act accordingly. I know, I know... everyone is busy now days. I should know I work two-jobs, a gym regiment, family and blog and if I'm into someone the moment they contact me i will at least take 30 seconds to respond to them in an appropriate manner.
When a dude is not into you.. you will notice... he takes hours to respond to text, phone calls or emails etc. And when he does respond you get a DRY answer.... Real short... nothing special.
B.) Have you met any of his family friends or anyone in his inner circle?
When you truly like someone -- you cant wait to introduce them to the IMPORTANT people in your life. best friends , family members and co-workers.
if you have been talking to a guy for some time and you haven't met anyone of some relevance-- then to him... your either replaceable.... no one of importance or he doesn't find you worthy enough to meet these people.. KEY SIGN that you are either the side chick or the shone.
C.) How are things in the bedroom.... The saying goes that the interaction in the bedroom is a true reflection of the relationship.
So if he is only having sex with you at his convenience.. and he really isn't pleasuring you.. it more of a YOU BETTER GET YOURS -- BEFORE I GET MINE type thing... honey he just ain't that into you.
If a man considers you his woman... He takes pleasure in satisfying your every need in the bedroom... But if he is just trying to beat you down and take you home... KEY SIGN you are just the jump off.
D.) LAST BUT NOT LEAST..... Does he know you? Does he know whats going on in your life?
If a man doesn't care about you.... more then likely he doesn't stay on the phone long enough or in your presence long enough.. to hear about your goals, struggles, good times or bad. Personally i think this is one of the most IMPORTANT signs in dating... If a man cares about you... he cares about ALL of you... so that means... he wants to hear about your day... he cares about ya future goals.. and he is interested in what makes you smile...
Now when you have been talking to a man for months and he cant name your favorite food, color, or perfume.... that's a problem.
Girlfriend.. you must know the SIGNS in DATING... so you are not left wondering.... why isn't this working out .. when the signs were right there from the beginning... you gotta see things for what they are .... and make the decision on whether that's what you want or not.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO LET GO!!!!
So many beautiful and intelligent women don't know the signs....
First thing that you got to understand is... Just because you are an attractive woman doesn't mean you are every mans CUP OF TEA.
Trust me for the most part everyone has a type , physically and mentally so just cause you a Lil HOTTIE doesn't quiet secure you a spot with every man you set your eyes on.
Now that you understand that.... Here are some KEY things to take note of when dealing with a guy.
A.) How quickly does he respond to your Text , Email, Phone call, Instant message or BBM...
If a dude is into you he will always make time for you.... plain and simple if your a PRIORITY... he will act accordingly. I know, I know... everyone is busy now days. I should know I work two-jobs, a gym regiment, family and blog and if I'm into someone the moment they contact me i will at least take 30 seconds to respond to them in an appropriate manner.
When a dude is not into you.. you will notice... he takes hours to respond to text, phone calls or emails etc. And when he does respond you get a DRY answer.... Real short... nothing special.
B.) Have you met any of his family friends or anyone in his inner circle?
When you truly like someone -- you cant wait to introduce them to the IMPORTANT people in your life. best friends , family members and co-workers.
if you have been talking to a guy for some time and you haven't met anyone of some relevance-- then to him... your either replaceable.... no one of importance or he doesn't find you worthy enough to meet these people.. KEY SIGN that you are either the side chick or the shone.
C.) How are things in the bedroom.... The saying goes that the interaction in the bedroom is a true reflection of the relationship.
So if he is only having sex with you at his convenience.. and he really isn't pleasuring you.. it more of a YOU BETTER GET YOURS -- BEFORE I GET MINE type thing... honey he just ain't that into you.
If a man considers you his woman... He takes pleasure in satisfying your every need in the bedroom... But if he is just trying to beat you down and take you home... KEY SIGN you are just the jump off.
D.) LAST BUT NOT LEAST..... Does he know you? Does he know whats going on in your life?
If a man doesn't care about you.... more then likely he doesn't stay on the phone long enough or in your presence long enough.. to hear about your goals, struggles, good times or bad. Personally i think this is one of the most IMPORTANT signs in dating... If a man cares about you... he cares about ALL of you... so that means... he wants to hear about your day... he cares about ya future goals.. and he is interested in what makes you smile...
Now when you have been talking to a man for months and he cant name your favorite food, color, or perfume.... that's a problem.
Girlfriend.. you must know the SIGNS in DATING... so you are not left wondering.... why isn't this working out .. when the signs were right there from the beginning... you gotta see things for what they are .... and make the decision on whether that's what you want or not.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO LET GO!!!!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Girlfriend.... Im Just Asking.... Have you ever wished you could take your pussy back?
Girlfriend... I'm just asking... have you ever regretted sleeping with someone?
I'm pretty sure all women have gone through it or will go through this situation.
The situation in which if you could turn back the hands of time you would have kept your panties on. Well it happens to the BEST of us .... trust... me it is an unfortunate case of Trial and Error.
Sometimes as human beings we get caught up in Superficial stuff... that at the end of the day ain't worth shit. So We see this guy he is Physically attractive..... Or he seems to be Financially Stable or maybe he is the Hottest guy in the club, in your neighborhood or at work...and we focus on the stuff that has NO REAL SUBSTANCE and that's when the regret comes into play.
Sistahs we let these men into our bedrooms and between our legs because we are in love with their material or physical beauty before even getting to know him....
Ohhhh... he got a good job... and a nice car.... Let me give him some....
Ohhh... He got got a Great Body and good hair.... Let me give him some...
Ohhh.... Every girl in here is sweating him... but he is looking my way... Let me give him some...
These simple sometimes overlooked steps is how we end up selling ourselves short and regretting the next action....... SEX!!!!!!!
So what ! He's HOT and got a nice car... Turns out he's a DOUCHE BAG!!! Shit!.... now we're upset -- because we gave the goods to a selfish, self-centered, immature dude because he was 6'4 in a Range Rover....SMH!!
These are just some clear examples of the old school saying "EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS AIN'T GOLD".....
Trust me I've learned the HARD way when it comes to these situations....
So... Girlfriend my advice to you is that.... Before you give up the cookies... make sure you really get to know him... because you could be Blinded by the Biceps and that will just leave you wondering.... Why did i give him some??? and... Damn! i wish i could get it back.
I'm pretty sure all women have gone through it or will go through this situation.
The situation in which if you could turn back the hands of time you would have kept your panties on. Well it happens to the BEST of us .... trust... me it is an unfortunate case of Trial and Error.
Sometimes as human beings we get caught up in Superficial stuff... that at the end of the day ain't worth shit. So We see this guy he is Physically attractive..... Or he seems to be Financially Stable or maybe he is the Hottest guy in the club, in your neighborhood or at work...and we focus on the stuff that has NO REAL SUBSTANCE and that's when the regret comes into play.
Sistahs we let these men into our bedrooms and between our legs because we are in love with their material or physical beauty before even getting to know him....
Ohhhh... he got a good job... and a nice car.... Let me give him some....
Ohhh... He got got a Great Body and good hair.... Let me give him some...
Ohhh.... Every girl in here is sweating him... but he is looking my way... Let me give him some...
These simple sometimes overlooked steps is how we end up selling ourselves short and regretting the next action....... SEX!!!!!!!
So what ! He's HOT and got a nice car... Turns out he's a DOUCHE BAG!!! Shit!.... now we're upset -- because we gave the goods to a selfish, self-centered, immature dude because he was 6'4 in a Range Rover....SMH!!
These are just some clear examples of the old school saying "EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS AIN'T GOLD".....
Trust me I've learned the HARD way when it comes to these situations....
So... Girlfriend my advice to you is that.... Before you give up the cookies... make sure you really get to know him... because you could be Blinded by the Biceps and that will just leave you wondering.... Why did i give him some??? and... Damn! i wish i could get it back.
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