Whats the deal with dating older men?
Why do young beautiful women flock to Older Guys?
Is it that they Secretly long for a Father figure .... When we look at a man in his early 40's do we see * STABILITY* ??
I hear from a lot of ladies that older men are attractive because they don't play as many GAMES as men in their age group.
Ive also heard that older men like to be in committed relationships where as younger men want to date several women at one time.
and last but not least.... and i must say its my personal favorite because it makes me laugh every time.... young women say they prefer an older man because they are more experienced in the bedroom. LOL!! i hear old men are NASTY!!!
But on the Flip side.....
There is a couple of things i think young women don't take into consideration when dating an older man.
when you become exclusive with these men who are 10 , 15 maybe 20 years your senior you have to ask yourself....
What stage in life is he in ???? Does it match with mine???
for example... if your in your mid to late 20's and your man is in his 40's .... and you want to start a family.... Does he want that? Does he already have older children or maybe he doesn't feel like going through the terrible two's again.
Another example is your still very youthful and might enjoy hitting the scene every now and again... would he feel comfortable going?? or did he grow out of the clubbing phase.
Also... when dating a man that older... theirs a high chance he has been previously married... are you ready to deal with...... his ex-wife or kids... that might be close to your age.
So i guess the question I'm trying to ask... is the grass always Greener...when dating outside your age group....
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Sounds like you've been smoking the grass on both sides Bonny! I'm an older guy and if a girl comes to me looking for a "father" figure its only so she can repent for the dirty dirty they just did with me. If you're hitting an older man you're doing it because you want to be treated better but you'll eventually move on. It's not the sex, trust me. I've been on the wrong end of those relationships before and got bamboozled for a couple of timeshares. A beautiful black woman like yourself, on the other hand, should be running rampant through a nursing home getting your name on those wills.
ReplyDeleteLMAO @ NILLA... YOU ARE TOO FUNNY... RUNNING RAMPANT THROUGH NURSING HOMES...
ReplyDeleteI personally like to date men my age or slighty older by a few years... Not 10 or 20 years. People are attracted to people they are compatible with and have the same interest as and same goals. I don't see someone that much older than me really having that much in common with me. I guess the ones who are doing this have their reasons and I think looking for a father figure may be the main reason and they may be more stable but I need more than just stabilty I need love and compatibility and I dont see myself being compatible with someone that much older than me!!!! SN: Yaaayyy I did it!
ReplyDeleteTHANKS MS. PRUIT... FOR RESPONDING... PLEASE PASS THE WORD ON TO ALL YA GIRLSFRIENDS ABOUT MY BLOG... AND I AGREE WITH YOU... I DONT MIND DATING OLDER JUST NOT TOO MUCH OLDER.
ReplyDeleteEWWWWWW is all I have to say. I am a nurse so no I don't want to come home and continue working. I don't mind a man a few years older, but definitely not old enough to be my father or grandfather. I don't see that we would have too much in common. As for women saying they want an older man due to his experience, yeah right substitute money for experience.
ReplyDeleteOKAAYYY NOW HOW DO I START THIS.. UMMMM.. WELL I AM A GAY WOMAN.. DA AGE 31 MAY I ADD..I BN N A RELATIONSHIP WIT A 21YR OLD 4 ALMOST 2YRS.. AN I DO HAVE MANY MORE YOUNG WOMEN WHO WISH 2 B N HER SHOES.. HONESTLY SPEAKING I WAS SKEP 2 DAT HER BCUZ OF THE AGE FRAM, HOWEVA THINGS FELLED N PLACE. SHE GAVE ME THE STRENGTH 2 GET OUT AN LIVE AGAIN.. YES I HAVE MI OWN HOME, CAR AN FUNDS... LOL, I JUUST STILL CNT AN WONT BELIEVE SHE IS WIT ME 4 THOSE THINGS BCUZ SHE IS A VERY INDEPENDENT WOMAN. SHE WAS N COlLAGE WEN I MET HER, GOING 2 B A LAWYER, HER SKOOL IS PAID UP THREW HER WRKN AS A YOUNGSTER AN FAMILY HELP. I ACTUALLY LEARN NOW 2DAY THAT AGE IS NUNING BUT A #. AS 4 THE NURSERY COMMENT, IT CAN B A YOUNGSTER U N LOVE WIT NOW GET IN2 A ACCIDENT AN WINed UP USELESS,, AN WAT THEN? U GO LIVE HIM BCUZ U DNT WANA WIPE HIS ASSSSS.. LOL.. THERES ALOT OF OLDER PEOPLE WHO IS N BETTER HEALTH THEN U YOUNG PEEPS. ITS UP 2 U TO NOT CHOOSE TO B WIT A OLDER PERSON, BUT PLEASE PEEPS DNT DWN GRADE THE ONES WHO DO.. CHOW.. LOVE U BONNIE,, KEEP UP THE COOL BLOGS
ReplyDeleteFrom my experience, I've found that older men are mature in lots of aspects, some of those being of course mature fiancially, mentally, and sexually. All three of those things I find are quite pleasing. On the down side just becasue they are older does not mean that they are always mature. Some older men pursue younger women becasue of their young physics and mentality which makes the chase effortless to them and most women in their age bracket are not in the best physical shape so you have to look out for those things as well. I have never come across dating an older man becasue I was looking for my father which is a terrible thing to do if you are looking for something stabel. So ladies if you do decide to date an older man do take into the consideration greatly on where he is in life and I definately suggest not dating a man over 5 years your age :)
ReplyDeleteThere is a misconception that dating old means less drama. THis goes for dating older men and women. Age is nothing but a number. It's the personality of the individual that counts. You could meet a mature 25 year old and an imature 37 year old. In some cases I would defer that older men may have gotten all the games and drama out of their lives and are more stable than their 25 to 30 yeal old counterparts.
ReplyDeleteAt the end of the day, anything that contrasts with you current situation, will bring a different set of questions one must ask themselves. Dating outside of you race? Dating different age group? Dating the same race but different nationaity?
ReplyDeleteI think the questions you ask yourself before getting exclusive with the person are all the same.
And if you re not exclusive with that person, then no need to worry about all that stuff and sit back, relax and enjoy the ride...
Well honestly I have dated an older guy and honestly the only thing that was good was the SEX!!! Oh yes it was amazing!! But, outside of that everything else was a mess, he owned a town house that wasn't furnished, was going through a divorce with his "ex wife" (mind you he told me he wasn't married until I busted him). Paying child support for an adopted child, had two jobs, but was always broke, and come to find out they were sharing the car (found that out weeks later. That's why he could never keep an appointment with me. Honestly I don't think dating an older man is always the best thing to do. The reason why you think he's not playing games is because hes already played all the games you know about. He's much wiser he's not playing the game of LIFE, he's probably just playing you.
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying all of them are like this, but if you know an older guy no need to send him my way, I am straight! I rather date someone who is 3-5 years older than me. In the attempt of training him and building our foundation together. No ex wife drama for ME!!
Furthermore that nigga thought he was my DADDY!! Calling me "baby girl" do you want daddy to take care of it? Plus you make a very valid point, once I decided to go to Fort Lauderdale/Miami to hang out with some friends and he stayed blowing me up!! Once again thinking he was my daddy!!
For me you can put and X on dating older men. It's not for ME!
I have to go with Miss Miah from the mentality standpoint and Lo from “why” standpoint. At the end of the day you have to figure out WHY this older guy is that age and not in a stable relationship already. And if he is why are you the side chick? I like the way Lo put it. Most of the older guys that I talk to say they like the younger ladies because they are very impressionable and easier to deal with. Not to mention the looks and the fact that they can do a lot of “new” things to them in the bedroom. I like all of the above basically.
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