Mood : Just wondering
Girlfriend I'm just asking ...is it me? or does everyone JUST think of THEMSELVES.
So I was talking to a friend of mine.... he is young and accomplished... he is married to a young lady who also has a career and they have a child together.
But my friend cheats on his girl and says that " he doubts he will be with her for the long run".
So I asked him.. why do you stay? and he said for my Kid.....
In my eyes i think that's a scapegoat.... raising your child in a dysfunctional home JUST to say they were raised by two parents.
So I said the both of y'all are young and you ONLY live once -- why not get a divorce, go your separate ways and find love with who you truly should be with.
HE NEVER EVEN CONSIDERED IT......
In his mind... he was going to keep the Fairytale wife and kid so that it looks GOOD in everyone else eyes and behind closed doors he is unhappy and seeking happiness else where.
So my question is in this Situation why is he being soooooo selfish?
Why wont he let her go instead of subjecting her to being mistreated by him?
So my question is WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO HAVE THEIR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO? and WHAT MAKES PEOPLE CHEAT.... wouldn't it just be better to Leave...
Let me know how you feel.
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Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
GirlFriend... Im Just asking What kinda woman are Black men attracted to?
Mood: State of Confusion
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Has the game changed? What are Bruthas really looking for? and do we really have what they are looking for?
So, I was talking with multiple male friends of mine and they all had very similar stories... and it was really shocking to hear what they were saying...
All of them were in relationships with black women for multiple years.
All of them claim they took care of their women mentally , emotionally and financially saying their girl didn't want for anything one even said his girl had a monthly allowance of 12-hundred a month.
But here is where stuff goes down hill... Each of them said... their girl NEVER cleaned.. NEVER cooked.. Complained a lot... and some didn't even work...
THIS LEFT ME IN A STATE OF CONFUSION.....
So i asked... why did you stay?
All of them responded the same way ... They loved her... they were comfortable..they invested so much they didn't want to let go.
NOW.... as a result of these horrible relationships All these guys either have commitment issues or have turned their back on black women as a whole...
SO I ASKED....
Why don't you want to date black girls anymore?
and this was the response...
They like to argue...
They are ungrateful...
They don't know how to let a man be a man...
MY NEXT QUESTION WAS SO WHAT DO YOU GET WHEN DATING WOMEN OF OTHER RACES THAT YOU DON'T GET FROM BLACK WOMEN?
I heard... this " When i am in a relationship with a Hispanic or Caucasian woman... its less confrontational. The house is clean, my dinner cooked and I see more smiles then frowns"
REALLY?
So my questions to my Sistah is...
WHAT DA HELL IS GOING ON?
Are some of us really out here keeping a dirty houses?
Not taking care of our men?
Using and abusing?
Are we quick to Argue but less likely to talk about things like a rational adult?
ON ANOTHER NOTE -- BUT NOT OFF TOPIC...
Black girls we need to step up when it comes to our bodies.
we are QUICK TO PICK UP A 200 DOLLAR OUTFIT, PUT RIMS ON OUR CARS, BUY WEAVES COSTING HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS but we WONT invest in our bodies.
when I'm at the gym @ 7 am its full of women... but only a few are black women...
we lead in Heart Disease, High Blood Pressure & Diabetes...
YES IT TRUE Not everyone is meant to be a size zero BUT everyone should be a size HEALTHY!
So in conclusion... Sistahs we are ALWAYS complaining about there is NO GOOD BLACK MEN OUT THERE.... but are we doing what it take to Get a GOOD MAN and Keep Him?
Lemme Know what you think?
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Has the game changed? What are Bruthas really looking for? and do we really have what they are looking for?
So, I was talking with multiple male friends of mine and they all had very similar stories... and it was really shocking to hear what they were saying...
All of them were in relationships with black women for multiple years.
All of them claim they took care of their women mentally , emotionally and financially saying their girl didn't want for anything one even said his girl had a monthly allowance of 12-hundred a month.
But here is where stuff goes down hill... Each of them said... their girl NEVER cleaned.. NEVER cooked.. Complained a lot... and some didn't even work...
THIS LEFT ME IN A STATE OF CONFUSION.....
So i asked... why did you stay?
All of them responded the same way ... They loved her... they were comfortable..they invested so much they didn't want to let go.
NOW.... as a result of these horrible relationships All these guys either have commitment issues or have turned their back on black women as a whole...
SO I ASKED....
Why don't you want to date black girls anymore?
and this was the response...
They like to argue...
They are ungrateful...
They don't know how to let a man be a man...
MY NEXT QUESTION WAS SO WHAT DO YOU GET WHEN DATING WOMEN OF OTHER RACES THAT YOU DON'T GET FROM BLACK WOMEN?
I heard... this " When i am in a relationship with a Hispanic or Caucasian woman... its less confrontational. The house is clean, my dinner cooked and I see more smiles then frowns"
REALLY?
So my questions to my Sistah is...
WHAT DA HELL IS GOING ON?
Are some of us really out here keeping a dirty houses?
Not taking care of our men?
Using and abusing?
Are we quick to Argue but less likely to talk about things like a rational adult?
ON ANOTHER NOTE -- BUT NOT OFF TOPIC...
Black girls we need to step up when it comes to our bodies.
we are QUICK TO PICK UP A 200 DOLLAR OUTFIT, PUT RIMS ON OUR CARS, BUY WEAVES COSTING HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS but we WONT invest in our bodies.
when I'm at the gym @ 7 am its full of women... but only a few are black women...
we lead in Heart Disease, High Blood Pressure & Diabetes...
YES IT TRUE Not everyone is meant to be a size zero BUT everyone should be a size HEALTHY!
So in conclusion... Sistahs we are ALWAYS complaining about there is NO GOOD BLACK MEN OUT THERE.... but are we doing what it take to Get a GOOD MAN and Keep Him?
Lemme Know what you think?
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking ... Do you know what works for you?
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Do you have a realistic view of your physical appearance.
I see a lot of "Hot Messes" walking around and i think a lot of it is due to lack of what i like to call "BODY AWARENESS".
I see women walking in da mall or in the club and i say to myself "What was she thinking?"
Ladies we Must keep it Real with ourselves -- First and Foremost..... Everything that is in style does not mean its meant for our body type.
For example... I love high waisted jeans but it doesn't look good on me... I'm not very Hippy and my butt isn't that big.
This style looks better on a "Pear Shaped" woman.
Secondly ladies learn you to Accentuate the Positives and Camouflage the Negatives.
For examples... my positives are my boobs and legs.
so when out I try to wear things that show them off... a little cleavage and some shorts does the trick.
I'm AWARE that i don't have washboard abs so i DON'T wear mid-drift tops of spandex tops
I'm Also aware that my arms aren't that toned so i stay away from spaghetti straps or things that show my Lil jiggle.
Thirdly ladies Embrace your complexion....
When purchasing make-up.... make sure you purchase the right color foundation or powder.
Certain make-up trends might not fit your face or complexion.
For me i love to see beautiful make-up! its so girly! but i also know for my complexion i should stay with more earth tones like, brown, gold, cream, black, gray and light pinks and rose color shadows.
When using make-up REMEMBER it is meant to ENHANCE your beauty NOT give you a whole new face... So keep it natural.
Things you should try and avoid.
A.) Try not to draw on your eyebrows (nothings wrong with shading them in) BUT don't shave them off just to draw them back on.
B.) Eye shadows are great and can make your eyes pop... BUT KEEP IN MIND there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between daytime and night time make up. At 2pm in the afternoon your eyelids shouldn't be look like disco balls. So keep it simple.
C.) Lipstick/ Lip gloss.... if you aren't sure about how you will look in a shape put someone your hand... whatever you see if what others will see when its on your face... so if their is a LOUD and WRONG contrast more then likely it isn't for you.
** if all else fails... throw on some black liner, mascara, and a sheer lip gloss... just enough to get you noticed without trying TOO HARD!
Last But Not Least
A lot of women where weaves.....
Like anything else in life you get what you pay for.
buy some synthetic or cheap weave your hair will look a mess PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Invest in some GOOD hair that you can wash and take care of as if it was yours and your Hair will turn heads in a GOOD WAY...
So in conclusion Girlfriend when it comes to your outer appearance KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURSELF and remember just cause it came in your size doesn't mean it was meant for you.
I see a lot of "Hot Messes" walking around and i think a lot of it is due to lack of what i like to call "BODY AWARENESS".
I see women walking in da mall or in the club and i say to myself "What was she thinking?"
Ladies we Must keep it Real with ourselves -- First and Foremost..... Everything that is in style does not mean its meant for our body type.
For example... I love high waisted jeans but it doesn't look good on me... I'm not very Hippy and my butt isn't that big.
This style looks better on a "Pear Shaped" woman.
Secondly ladies learn you to Accentuate the Positives and Camouflage the Negatives.
For examples... my positives are my boobs and legs.
so when out I try to wear things that show them off... a little cleavage and some shorts does the trick.
I'm AWARE that i don't have washboard abs so i DON'T wear mid-drift tops of spandex tops
I'm Also aware that my arms aren't that toned so i stay away from spaghetti straps or things that show my Lil jiggle.
Thirdly ladies Embrace your complexion....
When purchasing make-up.... make sure you purchase the right color foundation or powder.
Certain make-up trends might not fit your face or complexion.
For me i love to see beautiful make-up! its so girly! but i also know for my complexion i should stay with more earth tones like, brown, gold, cream, black, gray and light pinks and rose color shadows.
When using make-up REMEMBER it is meant to ENHANCE your beauty NOT give you a whole new face... So keep it natural.
Things you should try and avoid.
A.) Try not to draw on your eyebrows (nothings wrong with shading them in) BUT don't shave them off just to draw them back on.
B.) Eye shadows are great and can make your eyes pop... BUT KEEP IN MIND there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between daytime and night time make up. At 2pm in the afternoon your eyelids shouldn't be look like disco balls. So keep it simple.
C.) Lipstick/ Lip gloss.... if you aren't sure about how you will look in a shape put someone your hand... whatever you see if what others will see when its on your face... so if their is a LOUD and WRONG contrast more then likely it isn't for you.
** if all else fails... throw on some black liner, mascara, and a sheer lip gloss... just enough to get you noticed without trying TOO HARD!
Last But Not Least
A lot of women where weaves.....
Like anything else in life you get what you pay for.
buy some synthetic or cheap weave your hair will look a mess PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Invest in some GOOD hair that you can wash and take care of as if it was yours and your Hair will turn heads in a GOOD WAY...
So in conclusion Girlfriend when it comes to your outer appearance KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURSELF and remember just cause it came in your size doesn't mean it was meant for you.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
GirlFriend Im Just Asking....What do you do when Mid-20's Put you in a Limbo?
Girlfriend how many of you have been through or is going through The Mid-20 CONFUSION.
Something Happens when you Reach around 25 years old.
it's Like a quarter life Crisis.
Your Still Considered Young but your Far from a Teenager.
You still want to Club and Party like a 19 year old Rock Star but your Conscious is telling you its time to BUCKLE DOWN... time to start making better decision and securing the rest of your life.
Then around 25 at this point at least 1 or 2 of your Girlfriends have children and you can not help but to wonder" AM I SUPPOSE TO BE HAVING BABIES TOO?"
Then there is your love life.... when your growing up as a little girl... you think by the time your 25 you'll be married to Prince Charming , living in a big house with a white picket fence and twin babies. BUT SURE AS SHIT STINKS...reality sets in and you have to take into consideration how many FROGS you have to kiss before you meet your Mr. Right.
And a lot of the times you still haven't Found him by the time you reach your Mid-20's.
Your career also comes into play.... while growing up you think... go to college... get a degree... equals a GREAT PAYING JOB.... *POW* sorry wrong answer... No one tells you about the entry level positions... the Horrible co-workers , the overbearing boss and the Sorry paycheck at the end of the week.
The fact is that before you can obtain your dream job in MOST circumstances you have to Pay your dues.
So Girlfriend I'm Just asking...
What do you do... when you see your Youth Slipping away but your NOT quiet where you want to be in life?
I think Everyone must go through this at least once in their lives....
In my point of view ... i think you must weigh your pro's and cons...
WHATS POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE
Then look at your Cons
WHAT CAN I FIX ABOUT MYSELF AND MY SITUATION
and last
DON'T SWEAT THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF YOUR HANDS.
Something Happens when you Reach around 25 years old.
it's Like a quarter life Crisis.
Your Still Considered Young but your Far from a Teenager.
You still want to Club and Party like a 19 year old Rock Star but your Conscious is telling you its time to BUCKLE DOWN... time to start making better decision and securing the rest of your life.
Then around 25 at this point at least 1 or 2 of your Girlfriends have children and you can not help but to wonder" AM I SUPPOSE TO BE HAVING BABIES TOO?"
Then there is your love life.... when your growing up as a little girl... you think by the time your 25 you'll be married to Prince Charming , living in a big house with a white picket fence and twin babies. BUT SURE AS SHIT STINKS...reality sets in and you have to take into consideration how many FROGS you have to kiss before you meet your Mr. Right.
And a lot of the times you still haven't Found him by the time you reach your Mid-20's.
Your career also comes into play.... while growing up you think... go to college... get a degree... equals a GREAT PAYING JOB.... *POW* sorry wrong answer... No one tells you about the entry level positions... the Horrible co-workers , the overbearing boss and the Sorry paycheck at the end of the week.
The fact is that before you can obtain your dream job in MOST circumstances you have to Pay your dues.
So Girlfriend I'm Just asking...
What do you do... when you see your Youth Slipping away but your NOT quiet where you want to be in life?
I think Everyone must go through this at least once in their lives....
In my point of view ... i think you must weigh your pro's and cons...
WHATS POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE
Then look at your Cons
WHAT CAN I FIX ABOUT MYSELF AND MY SITUATION
and last
DON'T SWEAT THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF YOUR HANDS.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking.. When you looking for a man.... does that include his babymama too?
Girlfriend I'm Just asking.... Does Baby mama Drama come with the territory of dating?
It seems like Now-a-days EVERYBODY got a kid.
with that said when your single and ready to mingle you find yourself bumping into more men with kids and fewer without --- What do you do?
Is this something that women need to get use to or should we Tie up our shoe laces and go on a MASSIVE MANHUNT for the small percentage of men over 25 years old without children.
In my opinion " the kids" aren't the problem.... Its everything that comes along with it.
First and foremost if your dating a man with a child ---get it through your head from jump honey... The number one spot in his life is already taken... you may be a STRONG second but...still not #1,
Secondly, if your a single woman without kids over the age of 24 ... More then likely your without children by choice so you have to look into yourself and see if being in a relationship with a pre-made family is what your looking for.
Last but FAR FROM LEAST.... the potential drama... Relationships are HARD enough as it is.... Do you really need to add a baby mama to the equation?
Not saying every baby mom is Crazy, Deranged and a stalker BUT we all know and have heard our share of HORROR stories.
So do you chance having to deal with some woman..shooting you the evil eye because your with the father of her child. Or using the child to do disrespectful things such as Dropping by your mans house unexpectedly or calling his phone real late.
And more then likely if she is confronted about it she'll say something like " The baby wanted to talk to him... The baby needed something".
Hmmmm.... I personally DON'T need no extra strain on my relationships...cause i can bring my own drama LMAO :)
So I'm just asking girlfriend... Is baby mama drama and kids apart of dating men in 2010?
It seems like Now-a-days EVERYBODY got a kid.
with that said when your single and ready to mingle you find yourself bumping into more men with kids and fewer without --- What do you do?
Is this something that women need to get use to or should we Tie up our shoe laces and go on a MASSIVE MANHUNT for the small percentage of men over 25 years old without children.
In my opinion " the kids" aren't the problem.... Its everything that comes along with it.
First and foremost if your dating a man with a child ---get it through your head from jump honey... The number one spot in his life is already taken... you may be a STRONG second but...still not #1,
Secondly, if your a single woman without kids over the age of 24 ... More then likely your without children by choice so you have to look into yourself and see if being in a relationship with a pre-made family is what your looking for.
Last but FAR FROM LEAST.... the potential drama... Relationships are HARD enough as it is.... Do you really need to add a baby mama to the equation?
Not saying every baby mom is Crazy, Deranged and a stalker BUT we all know and have heard our share of HORROR stories.
So do you chance having to deal with some woman..shooting you the evil eye because your with the father of her child. Or using the child to do disrespectful things such as Dropping by your mans house unexpectedly or calling his phone real late.
And more then likely if she is confronted about it she'll say something like " The baby wanted to talk to him... The baby needed something".
Hmmmm.... I personally DON'T need no extra strain on my relationships...cause i can bring my own drama LMAO :)
So I'm just asking girlfriend... Is baby mama drama and kids apart of dating men in 2010?
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Girlfriend... Im just asking...Do you know if he is into you?
GirlFriend I'm just Asking.... Do you know the signs that he is just not that into you??
So many beautiful and intelligent women don't know the signs....
First thing that you got to understand is... Just because you are an attractive woman doesn't mean you are every mans CUP OF TEA.
Trust me for the most part everyone has a type , physically and mentally so just cause you a Lil HOTTIE doesn't quiet secure you a spot with every man you set your eyes on.
Now that you understand that.... Here are some KEY things to take note of when dealing with a guy.
A.) How quickly does he respond to your Text , Email, Phone call, Instant message or BBM...
If a dude is into you he will always make time for you.... plain and simple if your a PRIORITY... he will act accordingly. I know, I know... everyone is busy now days. I should know I work two-jobs, a gym regiment, family and blog and if I'm into someone the moment they contact me i will at least take 30 seconds to respond to them in an appropriate manner.
When a dude is not into you.. you will notice... he takes hours to respond to text, phone calls or emails etc. And when he does respond you get a DRY answer.... Real short... nothing special.
B.) Have you met any of his family friends or anyone in his inner circle?
When you truly like someone -- you cant wait to introduce them to the IMPORTANT people in your life. best friends , family members and co-workers.
if you have been talking to a guy for some time and you haven't met anyone of some relevance-- then to him... your either replaceable.... no one of importance or he doesn't find you worthy enough to meet these people.. KEY SIGN that you are either the side chick or the shone.
C.) How are things in the bedroom.... The saying goes that the interaction in the bedroom is a true reflection of the relationship.
So if he is only having sex with you at his convenience.. and he really isn't pleasuring you.. it more of a YOU BETTER GET YOURS -- BEFORE I GET MINE type thing... honey he just ain't that into you.
If a man considers you his woman... He takes pleasure in satisfying your every need in the bedroom... But if he is just trying to beat you down and take you home... KEY SIGN you are just the jump off.
D.) LAST BUT NOT LEAST..... Does he know you? Does he know whats going on in your life?
If a man doesn't care about you.... more then likely he doesn't stay on the phone long enough or in your presence long enough.. to hear about your goals, struggles, good times or bad. Personally i think this is one of the most IMPORTANT signs in dating... If a man cares about you... he cares about ALL of you... so that means... he wants to hear about your day... he cares about ya future goals.. and he is interested in what makes you smile...
Now when you have been talking to a man for months and he cant name your favorite food, color, or perfume.... that's a problem.
Girlfriend.. you must know the SIGNS in DATING... so you are not left wondering.... why isn't this working out .. when the signs were right there from the beginning... you gotta see things for what they are .... and make the decision on whether that's what you want or not.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO LET GO!!!!
So many beautiful and intelligent women don't know the signs....
First thing that you got to understand is... Just because you are an attractive woman doesn't mean you are every mans CUP OF TEA.
Trust me for the most part everyone has a type , physically and mentally so just cause you a Lil HOTTIE doesn't quiet secure you a spot with every man you set your eyes on.
Now that you understand that.... Here are some KEY things to take note of when dealing with a guy.
A.) How quickly does he respond to your Text , Email, Phone call, Instant message or BBM...
If a dude is into you he will always make time for you.... plain and simple if your a PRIORITY... he will act accordingly. I know, I know... everyone is busy now days. I should know I work two-jobs, a gym regiment, family and blog and if I'm into someone the moment they contact me i will at least take 30 seconds to respond to them in an appropriate manner.
When a dude is not into you.. you will notice... he takes hours to respond to text, phone calls or emails etc. And when he does respond you get a DRY answer.... Real short... nothing special.
B.) Have you met any of his family friends or anyone in his inner circle?
When you truly like someone -- you cant wait to introduce them to the IMPORTANT people in your life. best friends , family members and co-workers.
if you have been talking to a guy for some time and you haven't met anyone of some relevance-- then to him... your either replaceable.... no one of importance or he doesn't find you worthy enough to meet these people.. KEY SIGN that you are either the side chick or the shone.
C.) How are things in the bedroom.... The saying goes that the interaction in the bedroom is a true reflection of the relationship.
So if he is only having sex with you at his convenience.. and he really isn't pleasuring you.. it more of a YOU BETTER GET YOURS -- BEFORE I GET MINE type thing... honey he just ain't that into you.
If a man considers you his woman... He takes pleasure in satisfying your every need in the bedroom... But if he is just trying to beat you down and take you home... KEY SIGN you are just the jump off.
D.) LAST BUT NOT LEAST..... Does he know you? Does he know whats going on in your life?
If a man doesn't care about you.... more then likely he doesn't stay on the phone long enough or in your presence long enough.. to hear about your goals, struggles, good times or bad. Personally i think this is one of the most IMPORTANT signs in dating... If a man cares about you... he cares about ALL of you... so that means... he wants to hear about your day... he cares about ya future goals.. and he is interested in what makes you smile...
Now when you have been talking to a man for months and he cant name your favorite food, color, or perfume.... that's a problem.
Girlfriend.. you must know the SIGNS in DATING... so you are not left wondering.... why isn't this working out .. when the signs were right there from the beginning... you gotta see things for what they are .... and make the decision on whether that's what you want or not.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO LET GO!!!!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Girlfriend.... Im Just Asking.... Have you ever wished you could take your pussy back?
Girlfriend... I'm just asking... have you ever regretted sleeping with someone?
I'm pretty sure all women have gone through it or will go through this situation.
The situation in which if you could turn back the hands of time you would have kept your panties on. Well it happens to the BEST of us .... trust... me it is an unfortunate case of Trial and Error.
Sometimes as human beings we get caught up in Superficial stuff... that at the end of the day ain't worth shit. So We see this guy he is Physically attractive..... Or he seems to be Financially Stable or maybe he is the Hottest guy in the club, in your neighborhood or at work...and we focus on the stuff that has NO REAL SUBSTANCE and that's when the regret comes into play.
Sistahs we let these men into our bedrooms and between our legs because we are in love with their material or physical beauty before even getting to know him....
Ohhhh... he got a good job... and a nice car.... Let me give him some....
Ohhh... He got got a Great Body and good hair.... Let me give him some...
Ohhh.... Every girl in here is sweating him... but he is looking my way... Let me give him some...
These simple sometimes overlooked steps is how we end up selling ourselves short and regretting the next action....... SEX!!!!!!!
So what ! He's HOT and got a nice car... Turns out he's a DOUCHE BAG!!! Shit!.... now we're upset -- because we gave the goods to a selfish, self-centered, immature dude because he was 6'4 in a Range Rover....SMH!!
These are just some clear examples of the old school saying "EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS AIN'T GOLD".....
Trust me I've learned the HARD way when it comes to these situations....
So... Girlfriend my advice to you is that.... Before you give up the cookies... make sure you really get to know him... because you could be Blinded by the Biceps and that will just leave you wondering.... Why did i give him some??? and... Damn! i wish i could get it back.
I'm pretty sure all women have gone through it or will go through this situation.
The situation in which if you could turn back the hands of time you would have kept your panties on. Well it happens to the BEST of us .... trust... me it is an unfortunate case of Trial and Error.
Sometimes as human beings we get caught up in Superficial stuff... that at the end of the day ain't worth shit. So We see this guy he is Physically attractive..... Or he seems to be Financially Stable or maybe he is the Hottest guy in the club, in your neighborhood or at work...and we focus on the stuff that has NO REAL SUBSTANCE and that's when the regret comes into play.
Sistahs we let these men into our bedrooms and between our legs because we are in love with their material or physical beauty before even getting to know him....
Ohhhh... he got a good job... and a nice car.... Let me give him some....
Ohhh... He got got a Great Body and good hair.... Let me give him some...
Ohhh.... Every girl in here is sweating him... but he is looking my way... Let me give him some...
These simple sometimes overlooked steps is how we end up selling ourselves short and regretting the next action....... SEX!!!!!!!
So what ! He's HOT and got a nice car... Turns out he's a DOUCHE BAG!!! Shit!.... now we're upset -- because we gave the goods to a selfish, self-centered, immature dude because he was 6'4 in a Range Rover....SMH!!
These are just some clear examples of the old school saying "EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS AIN'T GOLD".....
Trust me I've learned the HARD way when it comes to these situations....
So... Girlfriend my advice to you is that.... Before you give up the cookies... make sure you really get to know him... because you could be Blinded by the Biceps and that will just leave you wondering.... Why did i give him some??? and... Damn! i wish i could get it back.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Girlfriend.... Im just asking.... What girl are you?
Girlfriend.... I'm just asking... What girl are you?
I was reading another online blog and it was EXTREMELY interesting and it was geared towards men.... and it spoke about different types of women and why men should stay away from them.
Girl# 1 is the " PERFECT 10"
She is so perfect that most men are wondering " WHY IS SHE SINGLE?"
This is the type of girl that has the beauty, has the personality, and what guys call " wifey" qualities. But this is where her flaws come into play... she probably has never been without a
boyfriend for more then a month at a time.. So she is CLINGY, NEEDY AND SPOILED.... and these qualities can morph into JEALOUSY and LACK OF TRUST if the man doesn't comply to her need to be in his face all the time.
Girl #2 is the "DRUNK & HOT GIRL" or " THE BAD GIRL"
She is the girl who knows all the hottest hang outs and clubs... If she isn't in the VIP... she isn't in the club. When you see her there is always a drink in her hand.... Her outfit is short , tight and revealing in all the right places. If you run her resume all her past relationships were with athletes, celebrities, or some sort of baller. She is the type of girl that steals the show when she walks into the room. But this girl... Shows no love .. she is an OPPORTUNIST... she only talks to men who can get her to the NEXT LEVEL... buy her the best things and break her off with no questions asked... She is Great to have on your arm but if you ain't talking $$$$$$ you might as well stop talking.
Girl #3 is "MISS I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T"
This chick is the girl who always had her own... and NEVER asked for anything from anybody...
She is the one who always had a job... always had the nicest things. Finished school and always been determined to be on her "A" game. She more then likely has the finer things in life and works HARD for them..And she seems "Perfect" but her issue is she is QUICK to tell a nigga she don't need him. Once her and her significant other get into a little spat -- she feels the need to remind him how far she has gotten without him and how much further she will get without him. these types of statements can hurt a mans ego. and that's why so many quote on quote OVERLY INDEPENDENT WOMEN are also single women.
Last but not least Girl #4 the " GIMME GIRL".
this is the sorriest of them all... She is the chick who is AVERAGE in every department... looks, personality and education. But for some reason she always has her hand out as is the world owes her something. But this girl always finds a FOOL to answer all her request. Usually these are the women who give the rest a bad name.. Lazy, Ignorant and Selfish... She has NOTHING to offer but wants to be catered too. SMDH!
Now in a nutshell maybe some ladies need to re-evaluate themselves and see what category they fit in... are you needy, are you a gold digger, are you TOO independent, or do you really have nothing to offer?
So my question is " Girlfriend ... which girl are you ?" and fellas which girls do you have in your past, present or attract?
I was reading another online blog and it was EXTREMELY interesting and it was geared towards men.... and it spoke about different types of women and why men should stay away from them.
Girl# 1 is the " PERFECT 10"
She is so perfect that most men are wondering " WHY IS SHE SINGLE?"
This is the type of girl that has the beauty, has the personality, and what guys call " wifey" qualities. But this is where her flaws come into play... she probably has never been without a
boyfriend for more then a month at a time.. So she is CLINGY, NEEDY AND SPOILED.... and these qualities can morph into JEALOUSY and LACK OF TRUST if the man doesn't comply to her need to be in his face all the time.
Girl #2 is the "DRUNK & HOT GIRL" or " THE BAD GIRL"
She is the girl who knows all the hottest hang outs and clubs... If she isn't in the VIP... she isn't in the club. When you see her there is always a drink in her hand.... Her outfit is short , tight and revealing in all the right places. If you run her resume all her past relationships were with athletes, celebrities, or some sort of baller. She is the type of girl that steals the show when she walks into the room. But this girl... Shows no love .. she is an OPPORTUNIST... she only talks to men who can get her to the NEXT LEVEL... buy her the best things and break her off with no questions asked... She is Great to have on your arm but if you ain't talking $$$$$$ you might as well stop talking.
Girl #3 is "MISS I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T"
This chick is the girl who always had her own... and NEVER asked for anything from anybody...
She is the one who always had a job... always had the nicest things. Finished school and always been determined to be on her "A" game. She more then likely has the finer things in life and works HARD for them..And she seems "Perfect" but her issue is she is QUICK to tell a nigga she don't need him. Once her and her significant other get into a little spat -- she feels the need to remind him how far she has gotten without him and how much further she will get without him. these types of statements can hurt a mans ego. and that's why so many quote on quote OVERLY INDEPENDENT WOMEN are also single women.
Last but not least Girl #4 the " GIMME GIRL".
this is the sorriest of them all... She is the chick who is AVERAGE in every department... looks, personality and education. But for some reason she always has her hand out as is the world owes her something. But this girl always finds a FOOL to answer all her request. Usually these are the women who give the rest a bad name.. Lazy, Ignorant and Selfish... She has NOTHING to offer but wants to be catered too. SMDH!
Now in a nutshell maybe some ladies need to re-evaluate themselves and see what category they fit in... are you needy, are you a gold digger, are you TOO independent, or do you really have nothing to offer?
So my question is " Girlfriend ... which girl are you ?" and fellas which girls do you have in your past, present or attract?
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Girlfriend....Im Just asking... How big of a role does money play in a relationship...
Girlfriend... I'm just asking is it ALL about the cash??
A good friend of mine once said " Romance without Finance is a Nuisance"
THESE ARE THE WORDS THAT I LIVE BY....
In my opinion... As a hard working young woman it's hard to wrap your head around a broke man. you think wait a minute if I manage to wake up every morning work 1 or 2 jobs and go to school.. why cant you do the same?
I truly believe Money plays a big role in a relationship...
It cost to wine and dine--while dating.
Money is the number one reason for divorces in America.
Being stressed over bills can affect a relationship.
Men have always been made out to be the PROVIDERS...and i feel like that is something a man should do.
Needless to say ladies... if we want a man to Provide for us we must bring something to the table more then just laying on our back.
Another Reason i believe money plays a major role in relationships is the "STRUGGLE" of being broke. There is nothing like that feeling of living paycheck to paycheck or being behind on some bills.... and you would hope your significant other could get you out of that tough spot... But nothing is more frustrating then realizing they cant help because they are worse off then you.....
I remember being 16 years old at the bus stop and wouldn't talk to any boys walking or on a bike... my thought process was "TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT" so there is no reason the both of us need to be in the hot sun waiting for the bus... I needed a boyfriend with a car. LOL!
So i guess in Nutshell... I'm asking Girlfriend... are relationships built on finances... As women do we Strive for a man with success and money... Will we put up with more crap as long as we are comfortable.... you know the saying " If you gonna live in a dog house -- Make sure it's a dog Mansion"....
Whats your take on this.....
A good friend of mine once said " Romance without Finance is a Nuisance"
THESE ARE THE WORDS THAT I LIVE BY....
In my opinion... As a hard working young woman it's hard to wrap your head around a broke man. you think wait a minute if I manage to wake up every morning work 1 or 2 jobs and go to school.. why cant you do the same?
I truly believe Money plays a big role in a relationship...
It cost to wine and dine--while dating.
Money is the number one reason for divorces in America.
Being stressed over bills can affect a relationship.
Men have always been made out to be the PROVIDERS...and i feel like that is something a man should do.
Needless to say ladies... if we want a man to Provide for us we must bring something to the table more then just laying on our back.
Another Reason i believe money plays a major role in relationships is the "STRUGGLE" of being broke. There is nothing like that feeling of living paycheck to paycheck or being behind on some bills.... and you would hope your significant other could get you out of that tough spot... But nothing is more frustrating then realizing they cant help because they are worse off then you.....
I remember being 16 years old at the bus stop and wouldn't talk to any boys walking or on a bike... my thought process was "TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT" so there is no reason the both of us need to be in the hot sun waiting for the bus... I needed a boyfriend with a car. LOL!
So i guess in Nutshell... I'm asking Girlfriend... are relationships built on finances... As women do we Strive for a man with success and money... Will we put up with more crap as long as we are comfortable.... you know the saying " If you gonna live in a dog house -- Make sure it's a dog Mansion"....
Whats your take on this.....
Friday, April 23, 2010
Girlfriend... Im jast Asking.. Whats up with all these Broken homes?
Girlfriend Im just asking.... Why is it so excepted to be a Baby mamma or Baby Daddy now days?
What happened to planned parent hood?
So this is a pretty "touchy" topic due to the fact that sooooooo many people deal with this issue or live this life style.
I guess maybe i have a bias view because i come from a two parent home...but on the other hand.... there are just some things i think are just common sense.
A.) birth control is always cheaper then a pack of diapers.
B.) the head ache and heart ache can be avoided with planning
( not saying that you will always be 100 % prepared but a lil preparation wouldn't hurt)
C.) A when this child grows up -- do you want them to live in a broken home?
( statistics show that kids that come from 2 parent homes are more likely to succeed in life)
D.) Is this the example you want to show your off spring? -- How can you tell them to wait for marriage or to have children with one person when you haven't done it?
Soo... I guess my question in a NutShell is why is the words "BABY-MAMMA & BABY-DADDY" so GLORIFIED?
I feel as if that's all some young people aspire to be... I go to more baby showers... then bridal showers..
I hear men talking about having a seed... but Never really hear about anyone purchasing a ring...
So who's fault is it.... the women? Are we settling for just a baby in hopes to keep a man... or Is it the men? Do they just want to reproduce without committing to the woman and family life?
or maybe it is our society in a whole ... Have we been conditioned to think that have two parent homes are now obsolete?
What happened to planned parent hood?
So this is a pretty "touchy" topic due to the fact that sooooooo many people deal with this issue or live this life style.
I guess maybe i have a bias view because i come from a two parent home...but on the other hand.... there are just some things i think are just common sense.
A.) birth control is always cheaper then a pack of diapers.
B.) the head ache and heart ache can be avoided with planning
( not saying that you will always be 100 % prepared but a lil preparation wouldn't hurt)
C.) A when this child grows up -- do you want them to live in a broken home?
( statistics show that kids that come from 2 parent homes are more likely to succeed in life)
D.) Is this the example you want to show your off spring? -- How can you tell them to wait for marriage or to have children with one person when you haven't done it?
Soo... I guess my question in a NutShell is why is the words "BABY-MAMMA & BABY-DADDY" so GLORIFIED?
I feel as if that's all some young people aspire to be... I go to more baby showers... then bridal showers..
I hear men talking about having a seed... but Never really hear about anyone purchasing a ring...
So who's fault is it.... the women? Are we settling for just a baby in hopes to keep a man... or Is it the men? Do they just want to reproduce without committing to the woman and family life?
or maybe it is our society in a whole ... Have we been conditioned to think that have two parent homes are now obsolete?
Saturday, April 17, 2010
GirlFriend.... I'm Just Asking.... Why can't i see more Chocolate sisters on my TV and in the Magazines
Your Pretty For a Dark Skin Girl.....
This is just one of the comments I have heard throughout my life.
But, why cant i Be Considered Just Pretty?
What is soooooo Wrong with having a Dark Complexion?
When you Flip through Magazines... or Turn on your T.v. Why aren't
there MORE dark skinned black women being shown?
For example when you Look at a Commercial for a Black product
they show you a Very Light Skinned black person or maybe bi-racial person.....Who doesn't look like the black girl next door... or like the vast majority of black people who will be using this product or service.
Another example.... is you turn on your Television and you flip on B.E.T.
and the Host for one it's most popular shows 106 park is a Puerto Rican
girl... This is (BLACK ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION) but yet the face of
the channels MAIN SHOW is Not even African American.... Not taking anything away from Roxy but i don't see Gabrielle Union Hosting a Segment on Telomundo.....
Recently..... CoverGirl went under fire for Lightening then skin of Beyonce and making her nose pointy.... Now... Beyonce is already on the lighter side of the color spectrum when it comes to black people... So are they trying to say.... though you sold millions of albums and is an international star... your features are still too black......
These are just a Few examples.... of things that are fed into the African American Community... that has little dark skinned girls thinking ..." hmmm im NOT pretty because I'm too dark -- i don't look like the women on TV or magazines"
I have more and can go on and on for days...
Artist like P.diddy and walle have come under a lot of scurtiny over having music videos and adviertisements... with only white or hispanic women --when the majority of their supporters and consumers are black...
just sit back and think... Whens the last time you seen a Dark Skin woman make a big break in the music industry and or modeling industry???
All most every widely known black woman in the music industry has a light complexion.... nikki minaj, beyonce , rihanna , amarie .. and many more....
but these things have left me asking... girlfriend whats wrong with being a beautiful chocolate sistah and why cant we see more of them????
This is just one of the comments I have heard throughout my life.
But, why cant i Be Considered Just Pretty?
What is soooooo Wrong with having a Dark Complexion?
When you Flip through Magazines... or Turn on your T.v. Why aren't
there MORE dark skinned black women being shown?
For example when you Look at a Commercial for a Black product
they show you a Very Light Skinned black person or maybe bi-racial person.....Who doesn't look like the black girl next door... or like the vast majority of black people who will be using this product or service.
Another example.... is you turn on your Television and you flip on B.E.T.
and the Host for one it's most popular shows 106 park is a Puerto Rican
girl... This is (BLACK ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION) but yet the face of
the channels MAIN SHOW is Not even African American.... Not taking anything away from Roxy but i don't see Gabrielle Union Hosting a Segment on Telomundo.....
Recently..... CoverGirl went under fire for Lightening then skin of Beyonce and making her nose pointy.... Now... Beyonce is already on the lighter side of the color spectrum when it comes to black people... So are they trying to say.... though you sold millions of albums and is an international star... your features are still too black......
These are just a Few examples.... of things that are fed into the African American Community... that has little dark skinned girls thinking ..." hmmm im NOT pretty because I'm too dark -- i don't look like the women on TV or magazines"
I have more and can go on and on for days...
Artist like P.diddy and walle have come under a lot of scurtiny over having music videos and adviertisements... with only white or hispanic women --when the majority of their supporters and consumers are black...
just sit back and think... Whens the last time you seen a Dark Skin woman make a big break in the music industry and or modeling industry???
All most every widely known black woman in the music industry has a light complexion.... nikki minaj, beyonce , rihanna , amarie .. and many more....
but these things have left me asking... girlfriend whats wrong with being a beautiful chocolate sistah and why cant we see more of them????
Thursday, April 15, 2010
GirlFriend Im Just Asking..... Why all of a suden being the other woman is cool??
Girlfriend I'm just asking.... Why is it now a days its OK to be the "side-line Hoe"?
If you turn on your television it has been everywhere... from Tiger woods to Sandra Bullocks Husband Jesse James and now ex-NFL star and sports commentator Tiki Barber.
All these men are married to respectable beautiful women but they cheat on them repeatedly and even in some cases leave them for SKANKY WOMEN... such as strippers and nude models.
Women who clearly aren't on the same level as their wives.......
So why do you think this is? ........
A.) Are all men all DOGS and cant stay in a committed relationship no matter who the woman is.
(shoot if a dude can cheat on Halle Berry-- does anyone stand a chance out here?)
B.) Are the women in these relationships getting too comfortable? Did they loose their spark... no more lingerie... or dirty talk... have they become boring... forcing their husbands to step out on them.....
(you know the old saying... a lady in the street... a freak in the sheets)
C.) Or is it the Other women's fault? If they know the man is married... why do they continue the relationship? Or is the man held fully responsible for the affair?
Last night it was watching Inside Edition and they had the Stripper Sandra Bullock's Husband allegedly had an affair with... and she was asked Similar questions and her answer was basically " She wasn't the one that took the vows -- so shes not at fault and he is the one who pursued her"...
Hmmm... I personally don't agree with that response because as a woman if your FULLY AWARE that the man a married with a family at home... you should be strong enough to walk away.. because if the shoe was on the other foot i doubt you would like being cheated on.. especially knowing the other woman knows all about you and just don't care...that's she is ruining your marriage and just being plain out selfish....
Now on the other hand... these women who cheat with HIGH PROFILE men... its almost like a Strategic Career move...because once the affair makes the news... these women get opportunities to be on television shows... magazine photo shoots and tell all books... its almost as if the media is Thanking them for being a lil slut....
Well I would personally hate to find out that the man I'm married to is cheating on me-- especially if its with some Fake boob, cocktail waitress with barely finished high school.
But Girlfriend I'm Just Asking.... When did it become acceptable to be the "OTHER WOMAN" ??
If you turn on your television it has been everywhere... from Tiger woods to Sandra Bullocks Husband Jesse James and now ex-NFL star and sports commentator Tiki Barber.
All these men are married to respectable beautiful women but they cheat on them repeatedly and even in some cases leave them for SKANKY WOMEN... such as strippers and nude models.
Women who clearly aren't on the same level as their wives.......
So why do you think this is? ........
A.) Are all men all DOGS and cant stay in a committed relationship no matter who the woman is.
(shoot if a dude can cheat on Halle Berry-- does anyone stand a chance out here?)
B.) Are the women in these relationships getting too comfortable? Did they loose their spark... no more lingerie... or dirty talk... have they become boring... forcing their husbands to step out on them.....
(you know the old saying... a lady in the street... a freak in the sheets)
C.) Or is it the Other women's fault? If they know the man is married... why do they continue the relationship? Or is the man held fully responsible for the affair?
Last night it was watching Inside Edition and they had the Stripper Sandra Bullock's Husband allegedly had an affair with... and she was asked Similar questions and her answer was basically " She wasn't the one that took the vows -- so shes not at fault and he is the one who pursued her"...
Hmmm... I personally don't agree with that response because as a woman if your FULLY AWARE that the man a married with a family at home... you should be strong enough to walk away.. because if the shoe was on the other foot i doubt you would like being cheated on.. especially knowing the other woman knows all about you and just don't care...that's she is ruining your marriage and just being plain out selfish....
Now on the other hand... these women who cheat with HIGH PROFILE men... its almost like a Strategic Career move...because once the affair makes the news... these women get opportunities to be on television shows... magazine photo shoots and tell all books... its almost as if the media is Thanking them for being a lil slut....
Well I would personally hate to find out that the man I'm married to is cheating on me-- especially if its with some Fake boob, cocktail waitress with barely finished high school.
But Girlfriend I'm Just Asking.... When did it become acceptable to be the "OTHER WOMAN" ??
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
GirlFriend.... Im just asking... Wuz up with dating older men?
Whats the deal with dating older men?
Why do young beautiful women flock to Older Guys?
Is it that they Secretly long for a Father figure .... When we look at a man in his early 40's do we see * STABILITY* ??
I hear from a lot of ladies that older men are attractive because they don't play as many GAMES as men in their age group.
Ive also heard that older men like to be in committed relationships where as younger men want to date several women at one time.
and last but not least.... and i must say its my personal favorite because it makes me laugh every time.... young women say they prefer an older man because they are more experienced in the bedroom. LOL!! i hear old men are NASTY!!!
But on the Flip side.....
There is a couple of things i think young women don't take into consideration when dating an older man.
when you become exclusive with these men who are 10 , 15 maybe 20 years your senior you have to ask yourself....
What stage in life is he in ???? Does it match with mine???
for example... if your in your mid to late 20's and your man is in his 40's .... and you want to start a family.... Does he want that? Does he already have older children or maybe he doesn't feel like going through the terrible two's again.
Another example is your still very youthful and might enjoy hitting the scene every now and again... would he feel comfortable going?? or did he grow out of the clubbing phase.
Also... when dating a man that older... theirs a high chance he has been previously married... are you ready to deal with...... his ex-wife or kids... that might be close to your age.
So i guess the question I'm trying to ask... is the grass always Greener...when dating outside your age group....
Why do young beautiful women flock to Older Guys?
Is it that they Secretly long for a Father figure .... When we look at a man in his early 40's do we see * STABILITY* ??
I hear from a lot of ladies that older men are attractive because they don't play as many GAMES as men in their age group.
Ive also heard that older men like to be in committed relationships where as younger men want to date several women at one time.
and last but not least.... and i must say its my personal favorite because it makes me laugh every time.... young women say they prefer an older man because they are more experienced in the bedroom. LOL!! i hear old men are NASTY!!!
But on the Flip side.....
There is a couple of things i think young women don't take into consideration when dating an older man.
when you become exclusive with these men who are 10 , 15 maybe 20 years your senior you have to ask yourself....
What stage in life is he in ???? Does it match with mine???
for example... if your in your mid to late 20's and your man is in his 40's .... and you want to start a family.... Does he want that? Does he already have older children or maybe he doesn't feel like going through the terrible two's again.
Another example is your still very youthful and might enjoy hitting the scene every now and again... would he feel comfortable going?? or did he grow out of the clubbing phase.
Also... when dating a man that older... theirs a high chance he has been previously married... are you ready to deal with...... his ex-wife or kids... that might be close to your age.
So i guess the question I'm trying to ask... is the grass always Greener...when dating outside your age group....
Monday, April 12, 2010
Girlfriend... Im Just asking ... How do you feel about the statistic that 42% of black women will NEVER get married?
Recent statistics Show that 42 % of black women will NEVER jump the broom...
Wow!! That is nearly half of the female African American Population.
Now the really Question is.... As Black women do we set unrealistic goals for our relationships?
Are black men REALLY as bad as we often hear? Are sistah's even considering dating outside their race?
These are just a few questions that come to my mind when i here such staggering statistics.
A close male friend of mine said to me once -- " The problem with a lot of these young black women now days is that they get caught up on these reality shows .. like " real housewives of Atlanta" and they want that type of life style immediately... they don't want to struggle or grow with a man... they just want to be spoiled from day one."
Ladies, is this true?
Are we coming to the table with nothing to offer but expecting the world.
Do we see women on T.v. that are date celebrities and driving Range Rovers toting Louis Vuitton luggage and Associating that with what a "REAL" relationship is suppose to be?
As a very MATERIALISTIC person i can say at times i can get wrapped up in the trends.
And maybe in the back of my mind... i kinda think if a man loves me he will get me these things...
So in a NUTSHELL--" Why are nearly Half of us not making it down the aisle?
Are our expectations to high? and do we associate love with
material things"
Wow!! That is nearly half of the female African American Population.
Now the really Question is.... As Black women do we set unrealistic goals for our relationships?
Are black men REALLY as bad as we often hear? Are sistah's even considering dating outside their race?
These are just a few questions that come to my mind when i here such staggering statistics.
A close male friend of mine said to me once -- " The problem with a lot of these young black women now days is that they get caught up on these reality shows .. like " real housewives of Atlanta" and they want that type of life style immediately... they don't want to struggle or grow with a man... they just want to be spoiled from day one."
Ladies, is this true?
Are we coming to the table with nothing to offer but expecting the world.
Do we see women on T.v. that are date celebrities and driving Range Rovers toting Louis Vuitton luggage and Associating that with what a "REAL" relationship is suppose to be?
As a very MATERIALISTIC person i can say at times i can get wrapped up in the trends.
And maybe in the back of my mind... i kinda think if a man loves me he will get me these things...
So in a NUTSHELL--" Why are nearly Half of us not making it down the aisle?
Are our expectations to high? and do we associate love with
material things"
Girlfriend... Im Just Saying... My First intial Blog
Hello,
My name is Ms. Bonny... I was inspired to write a blog after i found myself VENTING to friends and on my Facebook page about the Trials and Tribulations that Black women go through in their day to day lives. From love to dating, from family to friends and reaching goals or achieving more than what we expected from ourselves.
I hope my reader find my blog to be a place where they can Relate , Learn and Laugh.
A little bit about myself -- I am 24 year old single Black woman living in South Florida -- trying to juggle a social life, building a love life, and Just being plain out Successful.
I entitled my blog " Girlfriend.. Im Just saying" because I want to talk to my readers as if they were a longtime friend..
When im sharing my experiences... i will tell the story through my eyes.. what i saw, how i felt and what questions if any i might have.
I hope you enjoy it... and follow my growth as an individual.
My name is Ms. Bonny... I was inspired to write a blog after i found myself VENTING to friends and on my Facebook page about the Trials and Tribulations that Black women go through in their day to day lives. From love to dating, from family to friends and reaching goals or achieving more than what we expected from ourselves.
I hope my reader find my blog to be a place where they can Relate , Learn and Laugh.
A little bit about myself -- I am 24 year old single Black woman living in South Florida -- trying to juggle a social life, building a love life, and Just being plain out Successful.
I entitled my blog " Girlfriend.. Im Just saying" because I want to talk to my readers as if they were a longtime friend..
When im sharing my experiences... i will tell the story through my eyes.. what i saw, how i felt and what questions if any i might have.
I hope you enjoy it... and follow my growth as an individual.
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